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God
The “born this way” argument needs to die forever
seriously I am so fucking tired of it and this banal kind of remedial HRC Gay Inc. understanding of sexuality
and on top of all of the binarism and erasure of sexual fluidity and polysexuality etc
IT’S A SHITTY FUCKING ARGUMENT
the minute people get sucked into making this argument they’ve already lost the debate because they’re playing by the rules of the oppressor by accepting their framing of said debate.
they’re buying hook line and sinker into the idea that acceptance and human dignity are conditional
do people even understand what they sound like when they say this shit
“ACCEPT ME BECAUSE I CAN’T HELP MYSELF”
queerness is still being pathologized by this argument, you are fucking apologizing for your failure to be heterosexual when you say this
the answer to “is being queer a choice?” should not be either no or yes
it should be “IT DOESN’T FUCKING MATTER”
I will give a fuck about “gay genes” when they find the right-wing gene or the Catholic gene
bisho speaking truths
I used to think I was getting away with something.
“Girls don’t count,” I’d say, running my fingers up her arm at the bar. “Don’t you know that?”
We both had boyfriends. Long-term boyfriends. Mine had introduced me to the concept.
How lesbians signal for other lesbians.
if you look closely, in the background, there is a faint second rainbow. here we see the response of a second lesbian. this lesbian will soon sense the response and make her journey across the unforgiving terrain in hopes to mate. let’s hope she makes it. the future of the lesbian population depends on it. (I’ve always wanted to work for some sort of Animal Planet/Discover Channel sort of thing… I think I’ve finally found my angle.) - Lezzy Lovegood
Frumious Bandersnatch: Asexuals Exist or Something, Says Book, But They Are Probably Sad Like This Cookie
By SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T LIKE FACT-CHECKING
PUBLISHED: 17:43 EST, 8 September 2012
Caption: Asexuals enjoy baking, but they don’t believe in heart-shaped cookies, and thus smash them in hate-filled rage.
Roughly 1% of the world’s population is ‘asexual,’ according…
“There are a lot of misconceptions about asexuality in the media,” says illegally hot David Jay, the founder of AVEN, who is so attractive it makes us sad that he is asexual. — ahahahahahaha
Although most boys figure out how to bring themselves to orgasm by age thirteen, half of girls don’t have their first orgasms until their late teens, twenties, or beyond. Teenage girls widely agree that they get the message loud and clear that masturbation is something boys do, but girls don’t, can’t, or shouldn’t. The cultural focus on intercourse tells young women to expect they’ll begin to experience sexual pleasure once they have sex with a man (whether or not they’re even interested in sex with men). Nearly all teen boys, on the other hand, experience sexual pleasure long before they get their hands—or other body parts—into a partner’s pants. Despite the massive advances in women’s equality, young women’s sexuality is stuck in a surprising paradox. Young women are sold provocative clothes but aren’t taught where to find their own clitoris. Many girls give their boyfriends oral sex, but are too uncomfortable with their own bodies to allow the guys to return the favor. It’s still a radical act to say that women need and deserve access to information about their own sexual pleasure—not just about the risks and negative consequences of sex.
“Why does it have to be sexual?”
Nice discussion that I’m slamming under a cut because it’s fucking long, but it dives into asexuality and characters (Sherlock, specifically) that are canonically accepted as asexual and why it’s okay, fandom, to still interpret them in a sexual relationship. There’s some back and forth involved with whether doing so is ace-erasure, to which the OP has responded.
You know what’s irking me a little?
THIS line:
“It’s such a great friendship, and there’s so much going on there. Why does it have to be sexual?”
It’s always said with this tone of anger and frustration, like it would be an insult to the writing to take it to a sexual place.
Why does it have to be sexual?
My question is: why not?